It’s been suggested to me recently that I should teach woman how to have sex or should I say please a men. Now, I know only too well that this goes both ways so lets say Men & Woman…. everybody.
Years ago when I grew up, there wasn’t as much information around as there is now. We all grew up believing that sex was up to a man to initiate and if it was to be adventurous then a man would have to bring new ideas into the bedroom. Totally unfair of course.
Fortunately for me, I had a man that introduced a few new things to the bedroom that I found interesting and exciting. Unknowingly he probably opened a can of worms for me. I always had a naturally curiosity for things. After that relationship broke up I had a few other sexual encounters and new experiences come my way and my curiosity rose.
Now, let me just say that guys and girls need to express themselves and give a little direction. Nearly every woman and man is a little different to the next and we cannot read minds, so tell us if you’d like a little harder squeezed, faster, slower, deeper, softer…. help us help you. Of course if the messages delivered respectfully, I can’t see how anything could go wrong. From time to time over the years Ive heard a bunch of guys discussing sex with woman. Often Id hear them saying how someone gave great head. With a curiosity and willingness to learn I would turn to them and ask them what was so good about it and to describe it to me. Disappointingly, they would always reply with “I don’t know, it was just great”, Or, “not too sure what it was exactly, but it was everything”. None of that helped me to realise this secret or to improve in the bedroom. Then I ended up hanging out with a gay man that became my best friend for almost a year. He was just as open to discussing sex as I was and over time I asked him what great head looked like and he graciously shared with me. Now there were a couple of things he didn’t mention that I knew about so I shared those with him too. Together through the sharing of techniques, we were able to both refine our skills and improve the benefits to YOU.
Lesson Number 1: ~ Always give direction when its needed, and always ask for feedback! Don’t get offended!
Give it a shot and see how you go!
When I grew up you didn’t have to mistrust people’s intentions. Most people were honest and you rarely came across people who just wanted to scam u.
Unfortunately, those days are gone. Reprogramming myself has been a very slow process. Burnt by so many honest looking folk, and friends. Those folk or friends that look you in the eye and with sincerity say “I’d never rip you off. You’ve done so much for me, I would never think of doing it!” Famous last words… with my bank account cleaned out, I find myself struggling to stay afloat once again!
It’s sad to think that we now have to mistrust everyone we meet. We can’t wait to see if they prove themselves either because past behaviour doesn’t predict future behaviour. I’ve been burnt that way too! Ouch!!!
After the breakup of my marriage, I found myself searching for answers on life. It was the hardest thing Ive ever been through personally and I was hurt and confused.
After a long road of personal development, and research I actually discovered life wasn’t what I was told it would be when I was younger and throughout my childhood. I mean, one man/one woman doesn’t exist?? White picket fences and happily ever after has long gone…. and loads of other things that would give people a darn fright if they knew they’d been fooled their whole lives.
No one is meant to be together forever. People come into our lives for a reason, season or a lifetime….. its rarely a lifetime. In fact, you can count the number of people that stick around your entire life on one hand…. no doubt, for many of you less than a hand.
One man, one woman? Hmmmm, well, in some countries with different religions men have a Harem of Wives. Why is it okay for them and not us? Take a herd of kangaroos, serviced by one stag? Two examples of why societies views and opinions are out-dated bullshit!!
Stay tuned for some more informative insights that I discovered on my post marriage journey.. Im sure you’ll find them enlightening, or at the very least, plants some seeds of doubt. A different way of looking at things. I hope you find them as informative, enlightening and as life changing as it did me.
Thank you for taking the time to read this blog.
Roxy Rose <3