Roxy’s thoughts on LIFE!!

It’s A YES from me – Equality!

One of the main things on the minds of most Australian’s currently is the vote for EQUALITY!

Personally I’m a big believer in people being allowed to be themselves. Anything outside of that to me is simply ignorance!

I’m sorry if I have touched on a raw nerve for some of you that may be reading this blog. We’re all allowed to have our own OPINIONS, right?  But, is it really YOUR OPINION?

Our beliefs all come from the things we have learnt from our parents, piers, friends, enemies, etc. Most of these beliefs have been handed down for hundreds of centuries, by our parents, their parents and their parents before them. Sometimes out of care, other times out of hate, but regardless of how they were delivered these messages, repeated over and over again, seeped through to your subconscious and created memes (mind viruses) that became your core values and belief system.

In a sense we have all been brainwashed, unintentionally led into believing that it’s okay to belittle people, gossip about them, to be racist, laugh at them, make fun of them, all because they aren’t like you or because they’re a little different. Instead of embracing the differences in other, understanding their unique place within society, we have been taught to hate and bully those instead.

Just like other protests and fights for equality throughout history that had to happen, like Black Slavery, The East Berlin Wall, and Woman’s Rights. All great examples of out-dated beliefs, once unacceptable in society.Thankfully now, over time, we have come to our senses and righted the wrongs.

We’ve all been through bullying of some form in life, most of us coping the majority of it when we were at school  We’ve all been told something negative about ourselves…. too tall, too short, too smart, too dumb, too pretty, too ugly…. I think you know what I mean. If kids can’t find anything weird to pick on visually, they will find it somewhere else like your name, or the colour of your skin.

Being Gay has been something men and woman have been told for years and years, is wrong and not acceptable in society. Told instead that homosexuality was a mental illness. Most of us have probably heard stories of gay guys being picked on, teased, bullied, or sometimes even bashed to death. All just because they were born with a strong attraction to the same sex. It’s not like they can just simply turn the attraction off, there’s no switch? Consider that for a minute. Do you really believe that gay men and woman could just STOP feeling the way they do? As easy as simply flicking off a light switch.  If you’re ‘straight’ then all you need to do is answer one question yourself! ‘When did you decide to flick your switch to straight?

I made a decision many years ago to work harder on myself than I did my job. To become a better ‘ME’. So, through self development books and workshops, I got to work. Eventually, a few years later, I stumble on a story by a lady named Teri Rose. Teri was then and now a facilitator for Law of Attraction workshops. If you’ve read the book, listen to the audio book or watched a DVD called ‘The Secret” you may already know what Law of Attraction is all about.

You see, Teri Rose had a car accident which resulted in a near-death-experience that forever changed her life. As I read her story, even though I’d been an atheist for years and years, her words resonated with me. I somehow understood what she was explaining and knew it was the truth, it just felt right!

Teri’s story increased my curiosity and thirst for more, I spent weeks researching near-death-experiences on the internet, watching youtube videos and downloading interviews, re-inactments  and documentaries. Most can be found at should you also want to do some of your own research.  If I could recommend one of the stories on that site worth reading, then it would be Howard Storm’s.

The message in every story was very clear and every story I read had the same message. God, doesn’t care about any of the bullshit society does, he doesn’t care about religion, gender, occupation, or achievements. All god wanted was for us all to love each other, live in harmony, and to help one another out, if ever in need. The motto I live by today, and that came about by all of this was, LOVE, KINDNESS & RESPECT regardless of where people come from, housed or homeless, rich or poor….no-judgement. Leave a profit on peoples lives (leave people better than when you found them).

Chances are, had you had walked in that other person shoes, lived their life, had the same events, opportunities and circumstances as they did, there’d be a good chance we would have made the same decisions they did, right or wrong.

Australia it’s time to do what’s right. It’s time to allow everyone in society to be accepted and treated fairly.

It’s a YES vote from me! What will your vote on EQUALITY be?


Could We Really All be Born Bi-Sexual?

Is it possible that we were all born Bi-Sexual?

Now I know that many of you out there will be horrified to hear that, and please remember this is just my opinion. An opinion I came to after many years of observing people.  I found that as I discovered new things my curiosity grew and grew. It brought about a newfound thirst to learn even more.

Initially, the journey began by simply being best friends with a gay guy. Most gay guys in a gay club, generally don’t behave like they do outside the club or at public gatherings. I guess being in a gay club meant they could let go, and just be themselves. I was exposed to their openness. All the things they wouldn’t normally do in public, was on show, like holding hands, touching, grinding, dirty dancing, BJ’s in the toilets, kissing and anything and everything. I was quite uncomfortable seeing men together at first, but over time I understood things more and came to totally accept it. I found the club scene very interesting. I listened, observed, questioned, analysed and educated myself more.

Let me share just four of the things I’ve observed and discovered

# 1 Gay men generally swing both ways – I’m not saying they all do, but being an attractive woman that was also a bodybuilder and had a size 8 figure, I found gay men would often try and pick me up. Shocked by their attention, their response was “I’m gay but I’d jump the fence for a woman like you!”

# 2 There are ‘Gay Beats’, hidden in every town and every city. On the Gold Coast there are places along the spit, other random spots along the beach, in toilet blocks, in car parks and at the back of Adult Stores. Adult stores often have a room for men to use. They pay a small entry fee to go in, watch porn, masturbate; or hook up with other men. The store ensures a supply of condoms is always available.

# 3 Many ‘straight’ men visit Gay Beats. Yes, even married men.  I have seen men go into them, spoken to them about it or been told by gay men. Let’s face it. Men are full of testosterone, they need to off load regularly. One woman is rarely enough.

# 4 Many men enjoy receiving anal – Prostate massage is a form of anal play that when done properly, can heighten a mans orgasm significantly. In my experiences as an escort, many men enjoy this as well as strap-on. Surprisingly, I also find that it’s often the more muscular, tattooed or Alpha type males that enjoy it the most.

So, what if we were really all born Bi-Sexual?

Here’s My theory…. Imagine a ruler. One end of the ruler is ‘Straight’ and the at the other end ‘Gay’.  Some people may sit right near the edge of the ruler – lets call them the 2%ers (2% gay, 98% straight) – while the rest of the population are sliding in-between the two ends.  Some 60/40, 50/50, 80/20, etc.

The men or woman that are 2%ers, may never even think about sex with someone of the same sex or even consider it in their lifetime. Then the others may prefer the opposite sex but might consider allowing someone to give them oral, another is prepared to give and receive oral, and another may be prepared to give or receive penetration, or both which has the title ‘Versatile’.

I will admit that when I share my theory with men and woman, there are still many that deny my take on things, and I certainly could be wrong? Society has had us believe for years, infected our minds with silly out-of-date information that has been handed down over 1000’s of years. If you hear something over and over again and again, it seeps through to your sub-conscientious and becomes a belief. A belief so embedded within us we cant see the forest from the trees.

Thankfully, I finally found the common sense to question things and analyse them more deeply……. maybe you should too!

Most People Are Honest

When I grew up you didn’t have to mistrust people’s intentions. Most people were honest and you rarely came across people who just wanted to scam u.

Unfortunately, those days are gone. Reprogramming myself has been a very slow process. Burnt by so many honest looking folk, and friends. Those folk or friends that look you in the eye and with sincerity say “I’d never rip you off. You’ve done so much for me, I would never think of doing it!” Famous last words… with my bank account cleaned out, I find myself struggling to stay afloat once again!

It’s sad to think that we now have to mistrust everyone we meet. We can’t wait to see if they prove themselves either because past behaviour doesn’t predict future behaviour. I’ve been burnt that way too! Ouch!!!

Societies Out-Dated Beliefs

After the breakup of my marriage, I found myself searching for answers on life. It was the hardest thing Ive ever been through personally and I was hurt and confused.

After a long road of personal development, and research I actually discovered life wasn’t what I was told it would be when I was younger and throughout my childhood.  I mean, one man/one woman doesn’t exist?? White picket fences and happily ever after has long gone…. and loads of other things that would give people a darn fright if they knew they’d been fooled their whole lives.

No one is meant to be together forever. People come into our lives for a reason, season or a lifetime….. its rarely a lifetime. In fact, you can  count the number of people that stick around your entire life on one hand…. no doubt, for many of you less than a hand.

One man, one woman? Hmmmm, well, in some countries with different religions men have a Harem of Wives. Why is it okay for them and not us? Take a herd of kangaroos, serviced by one stag? Two examples of why societies views and opinions are out-dated bullshit!!

Stay tuned for some more informative insights that I discovered on my post marriage journey.. Im  sure you’ll find them enlightening, or at the very least, plants some seeds of doubt. A different way of looking at things. I hope you find them as informative, enlightening and as life changing as it did me.

Thank you for taking the time to read this blog.

Roxy Rose <3