Could We Really All be Born Bi-Sexual?

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Is it possible that we were all born Bi-Sexual?

Now I know that many of you out there will be horrified to hear that, and please remember this is just my opinion. An opinion I came to after many years of observing people.  I found that as I discovered new things my curiosity grew and grew. It brought about a newfound thirst to learn even more.

Initially, the journey began by simply being best friends with a gay guy. Most gay guys in a gay club, generally don’t behave like they do outside the club or at public gatherings. I guess being in a gay club meant they could let go, and just be themselves. I was exposed to their openness. All the things they wouldn’t normally do in public, was on show, like holding hands, touching, grinding, dirty dancing, BJ’s in the toilets, kissing and anything and everything. I was quite uncomfortable seeing men together at first, but over time I understood things more and came to totally accept it. I found the club scene very interesting. I listened, observed, questioned, analysed and educated myself more.

Let me share just four of the things I’ve observed and discovered

# 1 Gay men generally swing both ways – I’m not saying they all do, but being an attractive woman that was also a bodybuilder and had a size 8 figure, I found gay men would often try and pick me up. Shocked by their attention, their response was “I’m gay but I’d jump the fence for a woman like you!”

# 2 There are ‘Gay Beats’, hidden in every town and every city. On the Gold Coast there are places along the spit, other random spots along the beach, in toilet blocks, in car parks and at the back of Adult Stores. Adult stores often have a room for men to use. They pay a small entry fee to go in, watch porn, masturbate; or hook up with other men. The store ensures a supply of condoms is always available.

# 3 Many ‘straight’ men visit Gay Beats. Yes, even married men.  I have seen men go into them, spoken to them about it or been told by gay men. Let’s face it. Men are full of testosterone, they need to off load regularly. One woman is rarely enough.

# 4 Many men enjoy receiving anal – Prostate massage is a form of anal play that when done properly, can heighten a mans orgasm significantly. In my experiences as an escort, many men enjoy this as well as strap-on. Surprisingly, I also find that it’s often the more muscular, tattooed or Alpha type males that enjoy it the most.

So, what if we were really all born Bi-Sexual?

Here’s My theory…. Imagine a ruler. One end of the ruler is ‘Straight’ and the at the other end ‘Gay’.  Some people may sit right near the edge of the ruler – lets call them the 2%ers (2% gay, 98% straight) – while the rest of the population are sliding in-between the two ends.  Some 60/40, 50/50, 80/20, etc.

The men or woman that are 2%ers, may never even think about sex with someone of the same sex or even consider it in their lifetime. Then the others may prefer the opposite sex but might consider allowing someone to give them oral, another is prepared to give and receive oral, and another may be prepared to give or receive penetration, or both which has the title ‘Versatile’.

I will admit that when I share my theory with men and woman, there are still many that deny my take on things, and I certainly could be wrong? Society has had us believe for years, infected our minds with silly out-of-date information that has been handed down over 1000’s of years. If you hear something over and over again and again, it seeps through to your sub-conscientious and becomes a belief. A belief so embedded within us we cant see the forest from the trees.

Thankfully, I finally found the common sense to question things and analyse them more deeply……. maybe you should too!

Society may deem you a ‘FREAK’, or is Society the FREAK?? FETISHES, explained!

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Do you secretly have a fetish for things that make you feel like you’re a ‘weirdo’? Well, don’t feel too bad about it because you are not alone, and probably more normal than you think.

Over the years I have analysed many things, including fetishes. I’ve questioned whether a child that sits on his mother’s lap develops a fetish for stockings or lingerie later in life. A very strict mother or father might bring about a fetish for domination or humiliation, even potentially have a higher tolerance for pain. I have noticed a man who misses his mother due to her passing, or inability to be a proper mother due to illness or mental issues tend to have a thing for roleplaying mother/son.

While no one is entirely sure how fetishes develop, some believe it starts in childhood. The idea is that an object somehow became associated with sex during the prime period of initial sexual development!

Experts theorize that an experience with masturbation as a young child – often one that has been long forgotten – could develop into a fetish for an object that serves as a subconscious reminder.

I have many men that come to me to fulfil these fetishes, sometimes married men or guys in relationships where they feel that can’t share these feelings and desires with their partner. They lead a secret life. One man in particular with a lingerie fetish, had been married for 20 years and had worn his wives underwear under his business suit daily. For 20 years and she never even knew?  It wasn’t about the underwear being a females, but the feeling of the fabric (lace, satin, etc) rubbing against their skin. He also admitted, although he wasn’t so sure he wanted to tell me initially, that he had a panty smelling fetish. Naturally, before I showered, I wiped my pussy on my underwear and gifted them to him. I’ve come to the conclusion that there’s something in the smell of a woman panties, just like pheromones, that attract them to a woman’s scent. The urge is so strong, they can’t help it!

Sexual Preferences

Besides fetishes, other common kinky preferences include:

  • Sadomasochism. People who find cruelty and humiliation sexually stimulating are known as sadists (pain-givers) and masochists (pain-receivers), and their punishing sex play is referred to as sadomasochism, or S&M. Whipping and spanking are two common ways to inflict punishment during sex. They can be light and liven up “normal” lovers’ sex lives or out of control and fraught with danger.
  • Exhibitionism. Psychiatrically speaking, exhibitionists are people who display their private parts in public to an unwilling audience, for sexual gratification. The psychological damage can be serious, particularly to children who are subjected to seeing genital “exhibition.”
  • Voyeurism. From the French word “voir,” meaning “to see,” a voyeur describes a person who is sexually excited by spying on someone getting dressed, undressed or engaging in a sexual activity. Voyeurism is viewed as a serious crime, writes Dr. Ruth in her Encyclopedia of Sex, not only because the people being watched have no knowledge, but because the Peeping Toms sometimes assault the people they are spying on.
  • Swinging and Group Sex. Some couples consciously choose to involve other people in their sex play by participating in: A mènage à trois(a couple adds a third person to the mix); wife swapping (two couples trade partners); swinging (a group of couples meets and exchanges partners among themselves); or group sex, or an orgy (a group of strangers all join the sexual adventure).

Not That There’s Usually Anything Wrong With That!

There are some fetishes I don’t participate in. It’s not personal, it’s just something I’m not turned on by. However, regardless of your fetish, I have no judgement. What happens behind closed bedroom doors is no ones business… the person that walks back out, is still the same, person that went in.

I believe we all have something unusual, deep inside of us. Many people discover theirs and explore them while others never do. Many of you hiding your fetishes, fearing condemnation, from society and all of the infected (brainwashed) and uneducated people with in it.

If you’re one of these and you’ve found someone you’re close to with a fetish, and you’ve found anything at all makes even a little bit of sense, may I urge you to do what I did.  People don’t deserve to suffer for believing they’re not ‘normal’!

Observing, Analysing, Questioning, and Educating, leads to Understanding and Acceptance!  

 

Part Two: How to get a Woman in the Mood ……and Lick Pussy Properly!!!

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Lets make you a STUD in the bedroom, shall we?

So, the arousing has begun but if you’re hopeless at licking pussy, you may kill her mood if you’re technique is crap.

If you’re like a lot of the men I meet, you may just be thinking your pussy licking skills are great, but found in most cases men really don’t have a clue. Now all you have to do is follow these steps and I guarantee you’ll have her moaning like you never have before.

Pay attention to a woman’s entire body, not just the obvious erogenous zones. Every part of her body can be used to arouse her, if its done the right way.

Step 4:  Tease, Tease, Tease…..

  1. Woman love being teased, the more you tease them, the more they love it. When your teasing her make sure you’re not predictable. Don’t make it obvious when your tongue will touch her pussy, make her wait, even if you can tell she’s begging for it.
  2. Try kissing the inside of her thighs as you slowly move upwards toward her pussy, stick your tongue out just before reaching the top of her thigh and with a soft wet tongue lick all the way through to the top of her butt cheeks. As you slowly work almost touching her pussy with your tongue but slowly lick and kiss back down slightly, nibbling and biting softly….

As a woman, I can tell you with certainty that having our pussies licked, feels incredible so guys, you have to get this part right…..

  1. stay in the moment and watch for body language, listen for her moans, feel her move her body under you!
  2. with a flat soft wet (use spit if you need to) tongue licking from below the opening of her pussy, slowly and steadily lick upwards – like when you’re eating ice-cream on a hot day… and it’s melting down the sides. If rimming is something you participate in, then use it too.
  3. When licking her pussy, remember to use your hands and/or toys… she has to be wet first though. No putting your fingers in before she is already a little aroused. Fingering a woman while licking her pussy can actually increase the amount of pleasure she experiences by at least double what she’s feeling with clit stimulation on its own.
  4. Be careful to stay in rhythm with her. You may need to really concentrate as it can sometimes be difficult to maintain rhythm and could allow her to lose focus if not done correctly. Ask her to tell you what’s good for her. An in and out motion or just stick with working the G Spot?

You have gotten her relaxed, aroused and all worked up….                                                                    so, now its time for her to orgasm.

  1. Allow her to take the lead with setting the rhythm, but stay in sync. Watch her for signals! Her movements, moaning and body langauge should help you discover what she really likes and its your job to continue doing whatever you are doing to make her so aroused, in that very moment. Trust me, now is not the time to change what your doing…. that will only lead to her losing her climax and you having to start all over again. Well, almost anyway. However, as the intensity rises increase the tempo and the pressure, and keep going!!! Some times it can take a long time for a woman to come…. so, just keep going. As long as you continue to get signals from her that she’s still enjoying it, just keep going.

You will of course, know that she has orgasmed when her body starts to spasm wildly. Once she has climaxed, she may need to to stop touching her clit for a while as it will become sensitive immediately after orgasm  – much like the head of a mans penis does.

What if it doesn’t work?

If you find that no matter what you do you still can’t get her to climax…… it will be one of two things.  She either wasn’t in the mood, or you haven’t stimulated her adequately, or licked her pussy the way she likes.

Talking will solve that one… she could have things on her mind which are then preventing her from relaxing enough for her to cum?

 

Well, now all you have to do is follow the plan, and ask questions….. and if you finally master it….. YOU will officially be A STUD IN THE BEDROOM!!

Congratulations in advance!! 

 

Part One: How To Get a Woman in the Mood….

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Many men think that licking pussy is all that its about while others think that sticking there fingers in there without any prior preparation, will feel good too.

Unfortunately, woman are not highly sexed, testerone filled  beings like men are. They don’t wake up horny or even get horny over nothing. The process although different than for a man, it’s still a process that not surprisingly many men enjoy as well.

So, in tribute to every woman out there, please let me educate all you men a little.  

Step One:  Set the Right Mood ~ Dim the lights, turn on some candles and music.

Step Two: Help a woman to unwind from the stresses of everyday life.  Helping her slip into a more relaxed and more sexy frame of mind, is a great way to start.  My favourite way to be turned on is through massage. Nothing gets me more turned on than a great massage, but guys its not about rushing to get down to business, this process will take a little bit of your time. Take your time, make it sensual using long slow strokes. Pay attention to any areas she may be really enjoying or needing relief. Massage her  like you’re worshiping her body for the very first time after having to wait for years to touch her. Work your way from her lower back up through her shoulders and neck, exploring her body and all of the areas you especially like. Slowly work your way down to her butt. This area is a very erogenous area, so try squeezing it as you massage it, allowing your fingers to slip down into the opening between her legs and between her cheeks…. almost like you never noticed you almost touched her pussy. Now work your way to the tops of her legs, pushing up toward her butt allowing your fingers to slip down every now and again to touch her pussy lightly. Once you have noticed her responding to your touch start using your mouth to kiss up along her body…. up along the side of her body, past her ribs, up past her ribs all the way to her arms. Use your mouth and tongue sensually to tease her even more. Now swap to the there side and do it some more. Up around her neck and ears, sucking and nibbling on her ear lobes, with occasional little bites as you make you way around. Now head back to massage her butt and legs, slowly once again kissing the inside of her legs, almost kissing and licking her pussy, teasing her while she is anticipating your tongue will touch her pussy, but then never letting her know how much longer it will be until your tongue does touch her pussy.

Step Three: Dirty Talk is one of the most powerful ways of getting a woman horny, very quickly  – try whispering in her ear how much you can’t wait to lick her pussy and that you can’t wait to see her cum, over and over again.

PART TWO ….. coming soon!

 

Sex Workshops for Men & Woman

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It’s been suggested to me recently that I should teach woman how to have sex or should I say please a men. Now, I know only too well that this goes both ways so lets say Men & Woman…. everybody.

Years ago when I grew up, there wasn’t as much information around as there is now. We all grew up believing that sex was up to a man to initiate and if it was to be adventurous then a man would have to bring new ideas into the bedroom.  Totally unfair of course.

Fortunately for me, I had a man that introduced a few new things to the bedroom that I found interesting and exciting. Unknowingly he probably opened a can of worms for me. I always had a naturally curiosity for things. After that relationship broke up I had a few other sexual encounters and new experiences come my way and my curiosity rose.

Now, let me just say that guys and girls need to express themselves and give a little direction.  Nearly every woman and man is a little different to the next and we cannot read minds, so tell us if you’d like a little harder squeezed, faster, slower, deeper, softer…. help us help you.  Of course if the messages delivered respectfully, I can’t see how anything could go wrong. From time to time over the years Ive heard a bunch of guys discussing sex with woman. Often Id hear them saying how someone gave great head. With a curiosity and willingness to learn I would turn to them and ask them what was so good about it and to describe it to me.  Disappointingly, they would always reply with “I don’t know, it was just great”, Or, “not too sure what it was exactly, but it was everything”. None of that helped me to realise this secret or to improve in the bedroom.  Then I ended up hanging out with a gay man that became my best friend for almost a year. He was just as open to discussing sex as I was and over time I asked him what great head looked like and he graciously shared with me. Now there were a couple of things he didn’t mention that I knew about so I shared those with him too.  Together through the sharing of techniques, we were able to both refine our skills and improve the benefits to YOU.

Lesson Number 1: ~ Always give direction when its needed, and always ask for feedback! Don’t get offended!

 

Give it a shot and see how you go!

Most People Are Honest

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When I grew up you didn’t have to mistrust people’s intentions. Most people were honest and you rarely came across people who just wanted to scam u.

Unfortunately, those days are gone. Reprogramming myself has been a very slow process. Burnt by so many honest looking folk, and friends. Those folk or friends that look you in the eye and with sincerity say “I’d never rip you off. You’ve done so much for me, I would never think of doing it!” Famous last words… with my bank account cleaned out, I find myself struggling to stay afloat once again!

It’s sad to think that we now have to mistrust everyone we meet. We can’t wait to see if they prove themselves either because past behaviour doesn’t predict future behaviour. I’ve been burnt that way too! Ouch!!!

Societies Out-Dated Beliefs

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After the breakup of my marriage, I found myself searching for answers on life. It was the hardest thing Ive ever been through personally and I was hurt and confused.

After a long road of personal development, and research I actually discovered life wasn’t what I was told it would be when I was younger and throughout my childhood.  I mean, one man/one woman doesn’t exist?? White picket fences and happily ever after has long gone…. and loads of other things that would give people a darn fright if they knew they’d been fooled their whole lives.

No one is meant to be together forever. People come into our lives for a reason, season or a lifetime….. its rarely a lifetime. In fact, you can  count the number of people that stick around your entire life on one hand…. no doubt, for many of you less than a hand.

One man, one woman? Hmmmm, well, in some countries with different religions men have a Harem of Wives. Why is it okay for them and not us? Take a herd of kangaroos, serviced by one stag? Two examples of why societies views and opinions are out-dated bullshit!!

Stay tuned for some more informative insights that I discovered on my post marriage journey.. Im  sure you’ll find them enlightening, or at the very least, plants some seeds of doubt. A different way of looking at things. I hope you find them as informative, enlightening and as life changing as it did me.

Thank you for taking the time to read this blog.

Roxy Rose <3

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